Sunday, June 14, 2009

Soul Mates

Hello everyone,
Cancer, cancer everywhere. Seems that almost everybody has cancer. I mean
cancer seems to be just a common issue. Like getting common cold or flu. Its like, you have cancer? So what? So does everybody.

I was looking through this website by Dennis Pyritz. He is doing a wonderful job compiling the cancer blogs on the net. My blog is also in it. And there are so many of them categorised according to the types of cancers ranging from breast cancer (the most popular) up to prostate cancer. Fantastic. Most of these blogs details the heartwrenching experience of the survivors and their caregivers going through the cancer journey. Many have gone from this planet (prayers for them) leaving a big hole in the lives of their loved ones and many have survived more than 5 years. Bravo!

The fortunate survivors have their soul mates by their sides all the way fussing over the doctor's appointments, meals, calories, pain medications, visitors and so many other issues that have to be dealt with. These soul mates would be holding their hands and hugging them when things are down and cry happy tears when the future looks bright. However, there are also many who have to go through it all on their own. Single mothers afflicted with breast cancers, men and women who are just left by their spouses to struggle on their own emotionally and physically, because like I mentioned before cancer takes a long time to heal and the healing journey can be real rough and the spouses might just get tired of the sickness. More often than not, for these cancer survivors, especially oral cancers, life is not the same anymore and the life partners have to make a lot of adjustments which many may not be willing to do it. I am not sure which one is worse; the emotional trauma of having cancer or the physical suffering.

To the unfortunate survivors who have to survive without their soul mates to share their sorrows, I would like to say that its not the end of the world and you can and will survive even stronger....believe me!


Anonymous said...

I have been following your blog for sometime now, in fact it is link to mine too. Hang on there, be strong, it is not over till it is over. May Allah keep you in His tender care always.

Mak Teh said...

You are a very strong person. I know you can make it even on your own. You are gietting better each day, so look forward to being able to do the many things that you have been wanting to do.

Be happy always! Only you can make yourself happy.

pete said...

I came on here expecting to write "bout time for an update" haha.

but you beat me to it. as always, you are so good at not just putting words together to get your point across, but the right ones that make much more interesting reading.

and then to put icing in the cake you make your point and then say "believe me!" which leaves the reader to say yeah i believe her.

of course for some of us the physical suffering which is rough but can fade with time, where i don't think the emotional trauma ever goes away, does it?

as for myself think the same, almost feel the same and for a short time i actually forget, then that darn reality sets in when i wonder if i will be able to speak.

please don't wait so long to give us more of your philosophy on this unfortunate journey which many of us are on.

Sharifah Rashidah bt. Syed Ahmad said...


Thank you for your kind words. I'd really like to get to know you a little better. What's your blog add?

Mak Teh,
Thank you for always being there for me. I am very fortunate to have the opportunity to get to know you.


You've always have a way in making my day. Your words always make me smile and forget this darn reality as you put it for a while.

Love you all.

x smkam said...

..... always speechless every time after reading your blog updates. But... yet glad to know that your are still there fighting the war even though with much struggle. At a meeting i attended recently your name was mentioned as one of the unsung heroes in the field of education. i really feel very proud when the man whom mentioned your name turned and looked at me knowing i know you.
Bravo ..... "pengetua" ha,ha, ha ....

Sharifah Rashidah bt. Syed Ahmad said...

Dearest ex-smkam,

I've always been glad to read your comments because it means that the saying "out of sight, out of mind" is just plain hogwash! haha

Yes, i'm still kicking, and kicking harder I might add.

And bravo to you, too, "pengetua konon2"..hehe because I was informed by my son that he and his gang miss u very2 much.

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God bless