Friday, November 25, 2011


He goes out every nite and he meets the beautiful, young girl everytime..This has been going on for a long while. Her friends have been advising her to end the marriage because there's really no point in going on with it. Whenever confronted, he never gives her a straight answer.. denying, denying, denying...but she knows whats going on. Therefore, discussion is out. There's no end to it. She has lost her faith in him and has also lost her faith in the marriage. What kind of marriage life is this when he has his heart with the other woman? How can she perform her wifely duties sincerely with the blessings from Allah when her heart is full of hatred for him?

This other woman actually has a strong hold on him. Just by batting an eyelid, he would go crawling to her and be at her service. Its like 'your wish is my command!"

What should she do? Allow him to marry her and share him with the other woman? No way! Not that she's against polygamy...polygamy is ok as long as she's not the wife because she has a good, valid reason for it. Her health. If she contracts HIV from her husband who might have got it from this other woman, who's going to be responsible? Nope, she's not going to allow that to happen to her...husband sharing is just out of question.

Her health comes first!!!!


Anonymous said...

I don't think she should outright reject polygamy no matter how deeply hurt she is. Allah works in mysterious ways. Perhaps, if it's AIDS or whatever disease is her worry, have both of them checked out and have that as part of the "agreement". Financial fairness (other that the other needs :-) ) should be agreed upon between her hubby and her (and have that in writing). The thing is, only Allah will cure the pain and hurt no matter what. If she has kids, esp. young ones, their feelings/needs from their father is very important for their well-being and future.
I sincerely think you should discuss the matter objectively and practically with the hubby. Again, have those "agreements" in writing... and then pray that Allah will help her "replace" the missing bits. InsyAllah... May Allah give you the peace of mind...

p/s My apology if I had gone beyond a simple comment...

Sharifah Rashidah bt. Syed Ahmad said...

Salam Anon, so sorry for taking such a long time to respond to your comment. I appreciate your comment..and there's really nothing to apologise for.

Matters of the heart is difficult to deal with, eh???